Marriage and Mental Illness: 11 Tips

By Steve Austin | Best of Messy Grace

Jan 23

My wife spent a week on a psych ward following the birth of our first son. She had a miserable fight with postpartum depression and sleep deprivation. One year later, nearly to the day, I landed in ICU and then a psych ward following a suicide attempt.

Shortly after, our marriage nearly fell apart. She left for two weeks, and they were the saddest and scariest days of my life. Once she came home, we started intense marriage and individual therapy, laying all our cards on the table. It was now or never. Eventually, we both decided to stay, fully aware of what that meant.

The dust has settled on that hard season, and thankfully, our “crazy” mostly shows up on different days. I am not a professional therapist, but I have been both the one who needed support, and the one who was asked to support a struggling spouse. I am writing only from my own experience. After living through it, here’s my take on what to do when you decide to stay married to someone with mental illness.

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To read the 11 Things to do Once You Decide to Stay Married to Someone with Mental Illness, just click here.

what to do when you're married to someone with a mental illness

I’ve been following Morgan Guyton for a while now and I am blown away by his knowledge, wisdom, and grace. In each of his blogs, I feel his hands opened, inviting me to the table and I am left with something to think on for days. I am greatly honored to share this post on Morgan’s site today on Patheos.

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About the Author

Steve Austin is an author, speaker, and life coach who is passionate about helping overwhelmed people learn to catch their breath. He is the author of two Amazon bestsellers, "Catching Your Breath," and "From Pastor to a Psych Ward." Steve lives with his wife and two children in Birmingham, Alabama.

  • I couldn’t figure out how to leave a comment over there so I will here. Great reminder for me as I’m the one with the mental illness in the relationship. Thanks for the perspective.

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