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Five Lies My Grandma Told Me

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1) “Time heals all wounds.”

Also known as, “This, too, shall pass.” While it’s true that after a personal tragedy, things do eventually seem to get better, life can be hard as hell before the good comes. But the idea that time is the healer is not totally true. When I think about the hurt and shame that was allowed to fester after my childhood abuse, time didn’t heal that. Time allowed the wound to grow larger, the infection to spread, and if a doctor had been able to look at my pain from a medical perspective, they might have amputated my entire leg, when the issue started with only a toe.

My wounds were healed years later, after a great deal of pain and suffering and confusion. But the wound had to be recognized first. You have to acknowledge pain before it can heal. I had no childhood counseling, no way to cope with what happened to me. Time never healed anything. It wasn’t until after a major suicide attempt, time on the psych ward, a great deal of therapy, prayer, Sacraments, and a very strong support system that I found healing.

Time, on it’s own, does not heal all wounds.

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