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4 Elements of Emotional Wisdom

Is It Okay to be Really Sad? 4 Elements of Emotional Wisdom

It's Okay to be Really Sad

Around the same time my Grandfather died last year, my son’s best friend moved away. I told Ben, "It's okay to be sad." The kid’s parents bought a beautiful new home across town, so my son has lost his favorite friend, the kid who sat next to him every day at lunch. To my little boy, it seems unfair. And although losing a friend he had only known six months pales in comparison to losing the patriarch of our family, the same truth applies to both: it's okay to be really sad.

When we prevent ourselves from experiencing the full spectrum of human emotion, it's like we're sawing off an arm or leg with a dull butter knife. It's hard, painful, and unnecessary work. In denying ourselves the right to feel angry, sad, or disappointed - anything but joyful - we're amputating pieces of our souls. This just causes more trauma that will eventually, stubbornly, rise to the surface.

We treat much of our trauma and pain the same way sickness is treated in the Western world. Too often, we treat the obvious symptoms while ignoring the root cause. Over-the-counter cold medicines are designed to treat the effects of the illness: a runny nose, itchy and watery eyes, and congestion. They make us feel better because we can’t see the symptoms anymore, but the virus is still wreaking havoc on our systems.

It’s the same when we feel overwhelmed. We might use words like anxiety, stress, despair, worn out, exhausted, or just plain done. If we aren’t dealing with a genuine psychiatric diagnosis, we’re describing intense emotions that we are used to stuffing down or covering up. But what would happen if we stopped trying to squelch or rush through it? What if we asked our emotions what they’re trying to communicate to us? Isn’t listening to our inner voice a great mark of wisdom?

It's okay to be really sad: the truth about emotional wisdom. via @iamsteveaustin #emotionalintelligence #catchingyourbreath

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4 Elements of Emotional Wisdom

What is emotional wisdom? 

Emotional wisdom is the collective knowledge and experience that result from having lived a life of emotional diversity. You obtain emotional wisdom by learning from past mistakes and taking that which you’ve learned into the future with you. It is give-and-take: you receive the experiences and decide what serves you the best to remember and use in the future.

Our emotions are continually giving us messages about what feels good and what doesn’t, what feels right and what feels wrong, what is acceptable and what isn’t, and the ultimate direction we should be going. Our emotions tell us when things are great, or when they need to be improved.

In denying ourselves the right to feel angry, sad, or disappointed - anything but joyful - we're amputating pieces of our souls. via @iamsteveaustin #catchingyourbreath #emotionalintelligence

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In this article, we’ll examine 4 steps to help you achieve greater emotional wisdom.

  1. Listen: A huge part of developing emotional wisdom is in learning how to listen to and interpret the experiences we have. By listening to your emotions, you can gain a broad understanding of what’s going on inside you. What’s going on inside you can affect your physical health and mental well-being, so it pays to listen carefully. Doing so will help you manage stress, which can manifest itself in many negative emotions.

  2. Trust: Trust in your ability to feel and be felt, and interpret your feelings accurately. Trust that you can handle whatever emotions come your way - after all, you’re still here, aren’t you? We are all much more capable than we tend to give ourselves credit for, so while you’re listening to your emotions, trust that what you’re hearing is the truth. Never second guess yourself when it comes to feeling. Whatever it is you are feeling is valid and worthy.

  3. Reflect: Your ability to look at your emotions realistically concerning the situations with which they arise is essential in developing your emotional wisdom. Notice we said reflect - not react. As you are listening to your emotions, logically examine whether your emotion matches the situation that it came from. Often, we are used to telling ourselves stories regarding our feelings that simply aren’t true - they are just habits. Therefore, honest reflection is a valuable skill to possess.

  4. Adjust: The ability to adjust your emotion to your present situation is a sign of true emotional wisdom. Like anything, this takes practice, but when you learn to interpret the messages your emotions send you accurately, you can adjust as you feel necessary.

True emotional wisdom comes from looking within and listening carefully to what we feel to give us clues that help us live healthier, happier, more productive lives.

DO YOU CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS OR DO THEY CONTROL YOU?

LEARN 14 EASY WAYS TO MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS

Watch this transformational webinar by author, life coach, and suicide survivor, Steve Austin. 

Do you control your emotions or do they control you? Read this. via @iamsteveaustin #catchingyourbreath #emotionalintelligence

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VIDEO: Why It’s Time to Let Go of Past Pain & Move Forward

Why It's Time to Let Go of Past Pain & Move Forward

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you thought you’d never get out of that pain and move to the other side? You deserve to let it go and learn how to move forward with your life. Here’s why.

Are you ready to let go of past pain and move forward with your life? Watch this. via @iamsteveaustin #catchingyourbreath #coachinglife

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Avoid These 8 Mistakes to Help Your New Habit Stick

8 Mistakes to Avoid to Help Your New Habit Stick

I've started a new habit this year. It's called "Note to My Next Day Self." I'm learning about it from my friend Tracy Winchell, and it is transforming my life. But can we be real for a sec? Starting a new habit isn't easy to do. If you're starting a new habit, keep reading to learn 8 common mistakes to avoid.

The world is just beginning to understand the influence of habits on success and failure. There are so many things you do (or fail to do) each day that shape the quality of your life. Whether it’s flossing your teeth, contacting potential clients, doing push-ups, or saving money, it might not matter today or even six months from now. However, it can matter in a significant way down the road. 

If you're starting a new habit, keep reading to learn 8 common mistakes to avoid. #tinychanges @rebootspodcast @iamsteveaustin

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Imagine the difference between 2 identical people over 10 years: 

  • One saves 10% of his paycheck. The other saves nothing.
  • One brushes his teeth every day. The other isn’t very consistent.
  • One reads something useful each day for 20 minutes. The other doesn’t.
  • One exercises for 30 minutes each day. The other prefers to watch TV.
  • One practices the piano for 30 minutes each day. The other doesn’t.

What would the differences be in 10 years? The first person will have a healthy savings account, have all of his teeth, gained the knowledge from 100s of books, be in great shape, and know how to play the piano. The other won’t have any of those things. 

You can rely on positive habits to change your future for the better! #tinychanges

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Building a new habit is much easier when you avoid the common pitfalls that can derail your efforts. Avoid these mistakes when trying to develop new habits:

1. Trying to build too many habits at once.

Changing a little at a time is the key to ultimately evolving a lot. We feel uncomfortable when trying to change too much at once. How many habits can you build at one time? That depends on the habits you’re considering, but a good rule of thumb is no more than three.

2.A lack of patience.

Habits can take a while to take hold. You might have heard that it takes 21 days to build a new practice, but that’s been found to be the minimum. The most comprehensive study on habit development found that it can take nearly 300 days to form a habit in some cases. The average is 66 days.

3. Failing to prepare for the obstacles.

Think about the challenges you’ll face and plan for ways to deal with them. For instance, if you want to go to the gym after work, but the gym is too far away, or the traffic is horrible at that time, it’s going to be very difficult to be successful. Plan for going at a time that will be easier for you or pick a gym that’s closer to your home or work.

4. Choosing a habit that won’t have a significant impact on your life.

Since you can only create a couple of habits at a time, pick something that will have far-reaching effects. For example, meditation can impact your life in many ways.

5. Trying to change too quickly.

Instead, build up to the habit you want to acquire. If you're going to develop the habit of flossing your teeth, start with one tooth. Do one push-up. Take an evening walk for one minute. Get in the habit of doing the action and then increase the duration. Make it so easy that you can’t possibly fail to do it.

6. Believing that slow progress isn’t relevant.

It can be hard to believe that doing one push-up will ever matter. But one leads to two. Two becomes five. Five eventually becomes 25 or more. How much progress have you made in the last year? Maybe going from one to 25 push-ups in a few months might not be so bad after all.

7. Focusing too much on the benefit of the habit.

Results can take a while to appear. For example, if you adopt a walking habit to lose weight, you’re not going to jump on the scale after your first walk and see any weight loss. Focus on the development of the habit. Be excited about growing your new habit.

8. Failing to control your environment.

Your environment matters. It’s a lot harder to get yourself to play the guitar each day if you keep it in the closet rather than setting it out where you can just pick it up. It’s harder to stick to a low-carb diet plan if your house is full of bread, donuts, chips, and pasta.

Give yourself the best chance of success. Avoid underestimating the usefulness of positive habits and the negative impact of poor practices. We don’t think about our habits, but that doesn’t mean they don’t matter. Creating effective habits will lead you to a life you enjoy!

Creating effective habits will lead you to a life you enjoy! #tinychanges @rebootspodcast @iamsteveaustin

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WEBINAR: TINY CHANGES

On Friday, January 18th at 11 am CST, I'd love for you to join my friend, Tracy Winchell and me for a free webinar. We’re gearing up for a workshop to show you exactly how this works. It’s called TINY CHANGES: What to do When Your New Year’s Resolve has Fizzled. It’s Friday, January 18, 2019, at 11:00.

If you haven’t signed up yet, do it here.

  • You’re not alone if your New Year’s resolve has fizzled.
  • You’re not alone if you expect way too much from yourself.
  • You’re not alone in unnecessarily beating yourself up.

My friend Tracy and I will teach you how to unfollow the annoying voices in your head and learn to follow the voices who will tell you the truth about yourself - compassionately and with love and grace.

If 2019 feels a lot like 2018 all over again, sign up.

Click here to join us in the LIVE workshop - where we’ll show you how.

TINY CHANGES: What to do When Your New Year’s Resolve Has Fizzled is Friday, January 18th at 11am CST.

Click here to grab your seat.

If you’re already beating yourself up because the New Year is a lot less shiny and bright, please join us.

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Encouragement for When Your New Year’s Resolve has Fizzled

Tiny Changes: What to do When Your New Year's Resolve has Fizzled

"92% of people won’t make it to February with their 2019 goals. Don’t be 92% of people."

~ Jon Acuff

Depressing, isn’t it?

We, humans, create grand expectations for a brand new year and for ourselves, but so often we’re busted before we even get used to writing the new date.

It’s even worse than we think it is because for every wrecked resolution, every habit that never fully hatches, and every promise to paint a healthier, happier, harmonious portrait of our lives, we - in the words of author James Clear - “…lose sight of who we are and what we can become.”

When we don’t do what we say we will do, we lose a little more hope. What we say we will do is pretty often an unrealistic expectation.

When we don’t do what we say we will do, we lose a little more hope. #tinychanges

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Jon Acuff in FINISH: Give Yourself the Gift of Done tackles perfectionism.

One person described it this way: “I start with the belief that I could do something. Then I get all excited and start dreaming. At first, I feel confident and like I know what I am doing. Then my dreams get big. Then I want perfection. Then all of a sudden I feel inadequate to do the job because I don’t know how to do it at that level. Then the dreams die, and the goal is forgotten. The best part is most of the time all that I mentioned above is mental. I never actually started anything.”

Y’all…

This has been me, but I’m changing my tune.

How? Lots of ways. Mostly, though, I’m learning how to set reasonable expectations for myself and other people.

You know what? It doesn’t happen overnight - just because I “decided” to live life differently. Don’t get me wrong, the decision to be different and to do life differently is important. But lasting change comes as a result of a series of daily choices.

You know, habits.

The RIGHT habits! Not like the ones a lot of us have already messed up on this early in the new year. But simple ones. Practices that don’t require us to be perfect and only take a couple of minutes to do. (Keep reading to learn more about some new tiny habits that are WRECKING me for good.)

But first, let me ask you a question...

What’s the number one frustration you have with yourself? The thing you tell yourself the most?

  • Is it that you’re a failure?
  • That you’re not smart?
  • That you’re a quitter?
  • That you’re weak?

One more question…

What could happen if you learned to stop beating yourself up?

What could happen if you learned to stop beating yourself up? #tinychanges

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James Clear is a habits guru who wrote the book Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones.

Clear explains how our identities and habits are intertwined:

This vicious cycle of beating ourselves up spirals and spirals and we no longer know how to be kind to ourselves. We no longer know how to set reasonable expectations and achievable objectives with weight loss, fitness, career goals, family objectives, and standards for behavior. We lose sight of who we are and what we can become.

Clear talks about building tiny habits that change the way we see ourselves, giving us the confidence to stack habits and routines onto our first habits, and ultimately improving our lives for the better.

A few weeks ago my friend Tracy Winchell of the Reboots Podcast told me about one of her favorite journaling habits. Every few days she writes a note to her next day self (maybe you’ve seen me practicing this on Instagram and Facebook). Tracy tells me this singular habit has helped her change the way she sees herself.

Through this exercise, Tracy has learned to encourage her next day self, and to set expectations for her attitude toward herself and others. She shared one of her notes with me, and I was blown away! No really, I freakin’ LOVE this exercise (almost as much as I love my friend, Tracy.)

I knew right then that my people HAD to learn how to do this.

Because if James Clear and Jon Acuff are right and that our identities are wrapped up in our habits, then building a habit designed to change the tapes we play in our heads ABOUT OURSELVES is a freakishly powerful method for creating clarity!

For some of us, mid-January means a return to the same old same old: a return to bad habits, and giving up new ones we said would bring us a better 2019.

But we can choose a better way by making a decision to stop the negative self-talk. And then setting up a ridiculously simple method - that takes no more than 10 minutes a day - to change the tapes in our head.

Oh, yeah. And the method still works if we only do it 10 to 15 times in any given 30-day period.

It’s my friend Tracy’s “note to next day self” journaling technique, and it’s helped her send the lying jerks in her head back to wherever the hell they came from. And it can do the same for you and me.

On Friday, January 18th at 11 am CST, I'd love for you to join my friend, Tracy Winchell and me for a free webinar. We’re gearing up for a workshop to show you exactly how this works. It’s called TINY CHANGES: What to do When Your New Year’s Resolve has Fizzled. It’s Friday, January 18, 2019, at 11:00.

If you haven’t signed up yet, do it here.

  • You’re not alone if your New Year’s resolve has fizzled.
  • You’re not alone if you expect way too much from yourself.
  • You’re not alone in unnecessarily beating yourself up.

My friend Tracy found freedom from the negative self-talk during a time of massive change in her life. She was walking through the hell of losing a job, selling her house, moving in with her mom, and dealing with the loss of a close friend. And we’re going to show you a ridiculously simple method (that will take less than 10 minutes, a few days a month) that will help you kick your negative self-talk to the cub.

"My soul sometimes feels like a Twitter feed where I’m following a million of the most annoying people ever, and I can’t find the Unfollow button."

-Steven Furtick in Crash the Chatterbox

Is this you?

It’s no way to live, is it?

If you're ready to take a bold step toward choosing NOT to FEEL THIS WAY ANYMORE, sign up for our free webinar.

My friend Tracy and I will teach you how to unfollow the annoying voices in your head and learn to follow the voices who will tell you the truth about yourself - compassionately and with love and grace.

If 2019 feels a lot like 2018 all over again, sign up.

If you're feeling like this year is a lot more of the same old stuff: procrastinating on building new habits, failing to give up old habits you don’t want anymore, and beating the crap out of yourself, you’ll want to hang with us for this webinar.

  • If you’re ready to stop beating yourself up because you want to change but can’t quite make it happen…
  • If you’re ready to set some reasonable expectations for yourself and get past the fear of failure - or success…
  • If you’re ready to FINISH something excellent in 2019
  • If you’re ready to change the relentless tapes in your head that say you’re not good enough or that you don’t deserve a reasonably happy life…
  • If you’re ready to tell yourself the truth - the good, the bad, and the ugly - about who you are and who you want to become in 2019…

Click here to join us in the LIVE workshop - where we’ll show you how.

TINY CHANGES: What to do When Your New Year’s Resolve Has Fizzled is Friday, January 18th at 11am CST.

Click here to grab your seat.

If you’re already beating yourself up because the New Year is a lot less shiny and bright, please join us.

For now, though, rest easy. Don’t worry about it if your New Year’s resolve has already fizzled. You’re normal!!! And it’ll be okay. I promise.

If 2019 feels a lot like 2018 all over again, sign up for this free webinar, "TINY CHANGES: What to do When Your New Year's Resolve has Fizzled." with @iamsteveaustin & @rebootspodcast #tinychanges

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How to Be More Open and Honest about Your Feelings

How to Be More Open and Honest about Your Feelings

A few months ago, I received this email from someone who listens to my podcast and reads the blog. She ended up signing up for relationship coaching, and after a few months, I asked Stephanie if I could share bits of our conversations as a blog post to help others who are stuck in a relationship with poor communication. She agreed, and the result is today’s blog post.

If you could use some help in learning how to be more open and honest about your feelings inside your trusted relationships, today’s article is just for you. Thanks again, Steph.

Email:

I’ve been married to my husband, Michael for 15 years. Lately, I’ve noticed that when he says we’re going to do a particular activity that I’m not interested in, I just go along with him and say nothing. Even though I don’t enjoy the specific thing he’s chosen, I guess I just keep doing it to make him happy.

And there’s something else I’ve noticed—when we’re out with friends, Michael sometimes makes a cryptic comment about me. Once in a while, those comments really hurt my feelings! Yet, I show no response at the time. I never mention these situations later, but I can’t help but think about them.

I now find myself feeling less happy about our relationship than I used to. I don’t want to end our marriage or anything like that, but still, I wonder, are we doomed to a life of being just another married couple who seems not to enjoy each other that much?

Here was my initial response to Stephanie’s first email:

You have a right to feel disappointed about the changes in your relationship. It’s not unusual for married couples to experience transitions in their relationship over the years. However, the issues you bring up are situations that can be addressed and resolved, as long as both people want them to change.

I think the most critical aspect of these challenges you present is what appears to be your hesitance or refusal to discuss with Michael how you’re feeling. Our partners need and deserve to know how we are feeling, especially about on-going issues.

In the event one partner is doing something unintentionally hurtful to the other, the one being hurt has a responsibility to the relationship to bring up the topic for serious discussion.

The remainder of this article comes from bits and pieces of our coaching conversations throughout the past six months. I’m so grateful for Stephanie and Michael’s willingness to share what they’ve learned with other couples.

Q: But won’t it hurt his feelings or make him angry if I bring up a situation that caused me to feel upset?

A: Well, he probably won’t feel his best. But assuming that he loves you, he’s going to want to know about your feelings and about how his behaviors are affecting you.

Look at it this way: if you were inadvertently doing something that hurt Michael’s feelings on more than one occasion, wouldn’t you want to know about it so you could stop the behavior?

Q: I guess I see your point. I definitely would want to know if I was upsetting Michael so I could change what I was doing. Otherwise, I could be hurting him over and over again and not even know it!


A: So, step 1 in your relationship is to talk with your husband about how you’re feeling and about what has been bothering you. An essential part of your discussion will be stating to Michael what you want and need from him.

Q: Oh boy, the idea of doing that scares me to death! I’m afraid I’ll say it the wrong way or say something wrong that will make him mad.


A: Well, here’s the good news: you can learn some basic communication skills that will help you share your feelings in a non-threatening way. As you gain confidence in how you communicate, you won’t feel as much fear about talking to Michael about your feelings.

Q: How can I say my feelings in a non-hurtful way?


A: First, timing is everything. My suggestion is to wait to talk to Michael when you’re not terribly hurt and angry. It’s best to keep a cool head when you’re sharing your feelings.

Also, choose an appropriate time and place to converse. For example, just after dinner. Your talk should be private with only the two of you present. It’s important to be able to make eye contact, so sit at a table or in the living room together.

Q: Give me an example. How can I tell him I don’t enjoy going to play pool on Thursdays anymore?


A: Now you’re getting very specific, which is super helpful when you’re communicating feelings.

You could say something like, “You know babe, I’m learning something new about myself, and I’d like to share it with you. I’m really not enjoying going to play pool as much as I used to.”

Then, you have a few options: you can pause and wait for Michael to respond. If you prefer, you can go on to say, “I’d like to stop going to play pool on Thursdays.”

Also, you could make an alternate suggestion for the time spent together on Thursdays, like “Let’s try something different on Thursdays—how about going bowling or meeting some friends for dinner?”

The focus here is on stating your feelings, wants, and needs using a non-threatening tone of voice. And be clear. This way, Michael will be more receptive to you and respond to what you’re saying. You’ve probably heard this before, but it bears repeating—start out with an “I” statement.

When you say, “I,” it shifts the responsibility for the conversation on to you, which is reasonable, given you’re the one who has something important to say. It’s best if a “feeling” word follows. So, “I’m concerned” or “I don’t enjoy” or “I’d like to” are great ways to start a sentence when you’re sharing feelings with a partner.

Q: Sounds simple enough. What if I start out this way and Michael still gets annoyed?


A: That’s an excellent question. Try to remember that Michael is entitled to feel however he feels, too. Listen to what he has to say. Refrain from taking his annoyance too personally.

When he’s finished talking, you could say something like, “It sounds like you’re annoyed right now” or “It seems you’re upset about something. How can we work this out, so we’re both happy?”

The critical part here is that you avoid getting upset. That’s because, once the both of you are upset, annoyed or angry, the chances of effective communication occurring decreases dramatically.

Allow your partner to have his own feelings. However, recognize that how he feels isn’t your fault. Each person is responsible for his own emotions. It’s absolutely vital that you not give up your own feelings because the other person wants you to. If you do, you’ll most likely be unhappy later.

Take a firm but non-threatening position about what you want to do. If you state what you want clearly and concisely, a loving partner will listen and understand.

Q: Okay, I think I’ve got it. I have a responsibility to my marriage to keep my husband informed about how I’m honestly feeling. Since I know he loves me, I’ve got hope now that I can get some of my troubling situations straightened out.

But what about the negative comments he makes about me when we’re out with friends?


A: The good news is that if you use the communication techniques we just discussed, they’ll work in almost any trusted relationship. I recommend that you wait until you get home, after the outing when Michael made a comment that bothered you. In the event either of you drank any alcohol, it’s best to bring up your issue in the morning.

Once you’re ready and feeling calm and confident, use your “I” statements and feeling words and be specific.

Here’s how:

“Last night, when you said to Peter and Leslie that I never take a turn washing the car, it really bothered me. Will you please not say comments like that to our friends anymore? I am very interested in how you feel, though. So, if you want me to wash the car or do something, will you please come and talk to me directly about it?”

Hopefully, Michael will reveal to you what he truly meant by the comment. If he doesn’t, feel free to tell him you’re concerned by the comment and ask him, “Do you really feel that way?”

Make it clear that you’re interested in resolving the issue, if, in fact, it is an issue, with him. Emphasize that you care about his feelings and that if there’s something you’re not doing that frustrates him, you’re willing to discuss it.

Q: So, I should use the same communication tactics when my feelings are hurt about a comment Michael made, and I want to talk to him about what he said.   

So, when I’m feeling like I don’t want to go along with Michael and do something he wants to do, or when I feel hurt about something he said, I’ve got to take steps right away to resolve each challenge as it happens. Right?


A: Nailed it! Allowing a lot of hurts and distress to build up isn’t good for a marriage – or any other relationship, for that matter. When that happens, one or both partners end up feeling not as happy about the relationship. All those hurts and distress can build a wall between you, resulting in boredom, hurt feelings, or an unhappy marriage.

Keep your relationship uncluttered from all those emotional issues by dealing with each situation, one by one, as soon as they occur. You’ll have a lifelong, joyous marriage when you work to communicate openly and honestly with your beloved partner.

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Do you need to catch your breath? Take the Quiz!

Self-Care Toolkit by Steve Austin

Since recovering from the worst day of my life, I’ve mapped out the exact methods I’ve used to create lasting change in my own life. That’s why I’m excited to announce my brand-new weekly self-help podcast, “Catching Your Breath.”

Changing my life hasn’t been easy – nothing worth doing is ever that easy. But learning to silence my inner-critic, practice self-care, and cultivate a courageous life of vulnerability has transformed me from the inside out.

I know these methods work in creating a life of substance, depth, peace, and intention. You can do practical, actionable things to build a life of calm right now. It’s not just a dream – you can map it out and quickly feel the waters of inner peace wash over your soul.

You can actually go to CatchingYourBreath.com right now and click on the podcast link at the top of the page to listen to the intro episode right now, plus a bonus episode on dealing with holiday stress. The first official episode airs January 1st. I hope you’re as excited as I am!

So, why the change?

In a word: clarity.

As I went through the process of writing Catching Your Breath, I slowly but surely became as clear as I’ve ever been on who I am, what I believe, and what I want to do with my life.

The short and sweet of it is this: I’m a human. I believe all people matter. And I want to spend my life helping others embrace the sacred journey from chaos to calm.

The previous podcast was a little confusing for folks because we covered everything from general self-help tips to politics to religion and abuse and spirituality to meditation and Bible study and everything in between.

I think people weren’t quite sure what to expect.

So, with the launch of “Catching Your Breath: The Podcast,” you can expect 30-minute episodes, laser-focused on self-help, self-compassion, and self-care. I’m going to take the principles from the book and make them as practical and action-oriented as possible for people just like you. I’m also going to be creating a weekly action guide for each episode: a free download you can take and apply to your own individual situation in the form of journals, worksheets, and checklists.

If you’re living an extraordinary, ordinary life, I am going to teach you how to cultivate calm in everything you do. Think of it as a weekly breath of fresh air.

How does that sound?

If you’re ready to shift your thought processes and begin the journey from chaos to calm, I’d love for you to join me.

You can subscribe here.

Here’s what I can tell you right now: the process of transforming yourself is going to take time. Don’t rush it. The sacred journey from chaos to calm doesn’t happen overnight. You need to reinforce positive messages within yourself, and you have to do it frequently.

Over time, the positive thoughts will take center stage and push the negative ones out, or at least, make them show up less often. It’s all about learning to retrain your brain.

Don’t get discouraged if you revert to your old ways when you’re first starting out with changes like this. Remember, you’ve been thinking and living this way, probably your whole life. This negativity and the destructive thoughts have been ingrained in you for a long, long time.

Breaking habits like this will take time. It’s not impossible. But changing habits takes some effort on your part. No magic habit-changing pill will suddenly turn you into a positive person who looks for the silver lining in every scenario you face.

You just keep doing the hard work and keep an open mind. Better days are coming, friend. Don’t be afraid of the changes.

The life you’ve imagined is possible. I’d love to be your guide on that journey. Subscribe to “Catching Your Breath: The Podcast,” today. See ya there!

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