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VIDEO: Why It’s Time to Let Go of Past Pain & Move Forward

Why It's Time to Let Go of Past Pain & Move Forward

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you thought you’d never get out of that pain and move to the other side? You deserve to let it go and learn how to move forward with your life. Here’s why.

Are you ready to let go of past pain and move forward with your life? Watch this. via @iamsteveaustin #catchingyourbreath #coachinglife

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VIDEO: I was a pastor when I nearly died by suicide.

Steve Austin was a pastor when he nearly died by suicide.

I was a pastor when I nearly died by suicide.

This is my story.

Want more?

To read the original post, just click here.

To view my list of suicide prevention/mental health resources, click here.

To order your copy of From Pastor to a Psych Ward, click here.

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6 Tips for Practicing More Empathy and Compassion

6 Ways to Be More Understanding and Empathetic

Teach Yourself to be More Understanding and Empathetic

What is empathy?

Empathy is the concern for the welfare of others. It’s the ability to detect or predict the emotions and thoughts of others. It’s easy to see why this would be a handy skill to master.

Empathy has an impact on your relationships. This is true for both your personal and professional relationships. Empathy can make your life easier and more fulfilling at home and at work!

6 Ways to Be More Understanding and Empathetic via @iamsteveaustin #powerof1 #lovewins #catchingyourbreath

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Try these tips to increase your empathy for those around you:

  1. Avoid making assumptions. Your view of the world is limited. Your experiences are just your own. Others have lived a different reality. If you’re from a well-off and intact family from the United States, you don’t really have a clue what it’s like to deal with the weight of growing up in an orphanage in Ukraine. If you’ve never lost a job, avoid assuming that you know exactly what that experience feels like. Making assumptions only gets in the way of developing empathy. When you catch yourself making assumptions, question them. Prove your assumptions to be true or false before making any decisions.
  2. Ask questions. One way to understand others is to ask questions. Develop a genuine interest in them. Enhancing your communication skills assists your ability to connect with, and to understand, other people. Ask open ended questions.
  3. Listen. Listening intently is related to asking questions and avoiding assumptions. Seek to understand the emotions that the other person is feeling. Asking questions and then listening to the answers is a pivotal part of creating empathy within yourself.
  4. Try to understand a group of people outside of your experience. Suppose you’re a young, Christian, African-American male. You might decide to learn about Hasidic Jews. Or if you’ve never been poor, you might learn about the homeless. Read books and talk to people. Strive to understand what it would be like to be born a part of a particular group.
  5. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. One way to relate better to others is to imagine yourself in the same situation. This can be painful. It’s not enjoyable to imagine that your spouse has died or that you’re completely out of money. Ask yourself, “What would I be thinking and feeling if I were in this situation?” Just asking yourself this question is the biggest step you can take toward being empathetic.
  6. Be present. Give your undivided attention to others. You can’t be empathetic if you’re thinking about something else while someone is speaking to you. You’re not as good at hiding your disinterest as you think! You miss most of the information, verbal and non-verbal, communicated to you if you’re not paying attention.
  7. Empathy is an important skill. It can greatly increase your ability to communicate and connect with others. Being able to understand their feelings and thoughts will boost your rapport with them. Enhance your personal and work relationships with empathy and you’ll benefit in many ways.

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30 Days of Empathy and Compassion begins February 4th

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VIDEO: 7 Ways to Use Your Spirituality to Help Your Business Thrive

VIDEO: 7 Ways to Use Your Spirituality to Help Your Business Thrive

Using all the resources at your disposal naturally brings you greater success in your business. Number crunching and data analysis are helpful, but you have other tools available. Your spirituality and instincts have been developing and growing since birth. It would be a shame not to use them to your advantage. Use these 7 strategies to enhance your business with your spirituality. Get 9 other free resources to help connect your mind, body, and spirit at

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WEBINAR: Answering Your Questions about Holiday Stress

Does holiday stress have you pulling your hair out before Santa even loads the sleigh?

If so, check out this 45-minute webinar I hosted recently, responding to listener questions about holiday stress.

The questions fall into 4 categories:

  1. Faith

  2. Family

  3. Finances

  4. Funk

Here are a few of the questions:

  1. I’m going to be around my dad, stepmom, and my stepsister this Christmas. They are all very fundamental, charistmatic Christians. I haven’t been around these people in years. I do have an escape plan, but I’m afraid they’re going to try and pressure me into going back to church. Do you have any advice to keeping your cool?

  2. Do you have any tips for dealing with dysfunctional family members?

  3. Many foster kids are usually stressed out by the holidays. So by proxy we are stressed out when our kids are dysregulated. How do we handle this before it ruins the holidays for everyone?

  4. I’ve got a lot going on this season. Kids! Parties! Church programs! Shopping! Wrapping! How do I find time for me?

  5. How do I get my child through the holidays? This is a hard time of year for him, and I feel like I fail to get him through it. He sees his therapist and I try to make sure we get extra quality time together, but he still struggles. The thoughts of not having a dad increase this time of year, triggering his sadness as well.

Check out the full list of questions, plus my responses by watching the video below:

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Sign up for my FREE 10-day e-course, “How to Keep the CrayCray Outta Your Christmas.” Click here to join.

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How to Practice Presence and Compassion in Your Own Life

Toward the end of my suicide prevention workshops, I say something like this, “If you forget everything else I say, hear this: All people really want and need from you is your love and presence.”

Could it really be that simple?

Yes, I think so.

That’s not to discount things like professional help, medication, and the like. For a long season of my life, I would have DIED without the help of counselors and mental health professionals. And I’m a HUGE proponent of medication if you need it.

What I am trying to say is this: if you don’t approach hurting people from a place of compassion, and with your full presence, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Hurting people have a super-sensitive bullshit meter. And they will spot your disingenuous nature from a mile away.

But if you show up fully and love completely, get ready to watch the transformation take place.

The same is true for yourself. If you want to heal the deepest wounds in your life, you must show up entirely, and show yourself some compassion.

In today’s video, I will teach you the basics of how to practice presence and compassion in your own life. It will take us about 15 minutes. Click below and skip to the 1:35 mark to get into the good stuff.

If you’d like to dig deeper into self-compassion, I’d like to invite you on the sacred journey from chaos to calm. Beginning February 19th, just a few months away, I’ll be launching 90 Days of Calm. We’re going to focus on things like self-care, self-compassion, and self-help. And we’re going to do it together.

But if you sign up right now, I’m offering one heck of an early bird discount. If you join by 11:59pm Monday night, November 26th, you’ll save 50% OFF the enrollment fee.

To join, just go to and enter the discount code 90DAYS50 at checkout.

There are three tiers, based on your ability to invest in yourself. No matter the tier you choose, you get 50% OFF if you join by Monday night. And the other great news is that there’s a flexible payment plan for each tier.

And that’s not all!

If you sign up by Monday night, you also get immediate access to 5 incredible bonuses. Here they are:

  1. 25 Self-Esteem Tips

  2. 50 Ways to Crush the Things that are Keeping You from Happiness & Success

  3. Understanding Shame (e-book & journal)

  4. A Survivor’s Manifesto

  5. Daily Gratitude Checklist

To join, just go to and enter the discount code 90DAYS50 at checkout.

There are a limited number of spaces available, and the sale ends Monday night! I hope to see you there!