Tag Archives for " shame "

Jan 18

I’m Not Disappointed in You

By Sarah Simmons | Mental Health , Messy Grace

The year had grown harder, week-by-week and month-by-month. There were days I couldn’t scrape together the energy to get out of bed. I’d dropped most of my college classes spring term to avoid failing – I, the straight A student to whom school came so easily. Anxiety made it impossible to eat, and I lost enough weight that people asked if I was anorexic.
I didn’t know it wasn’t my fault.

Read More
Jan 14

How Criticism Gives Me Courage

By Steve Austin | faith

As a writer, I am constantly submitting some part of my soul to someone else for approval. It’s a bizarre feeling. To some extent, it’s an occupational hazard, but it isn’t just writers who experience it. We’ve all been criticized by difficult people at some point. Most of us can think of that one bad boss, most ministers I know have experienced critical congregations, and if you’re a parent, surely you’ve felt the glaring stare of a stranger in the grocery store. We’ve all been asked to share some part of our personal lives with people, only to have it picked apart by less than gracious folks. And for me, it is part of the daily grind.
This is my world.

Read More
Dec 30

I got my little boy a dog for Christmas and it helped heal my shame. 

By Steve Austin | Mental Health , Parenting , Recovery from Abuse

“Where did this dog come from? Is she coming home with us? Can she sit in my lap? What’s her name?” I adjusted the rearview mirror, not wanting to miss a single detail of his excitement. “Yea buddy, she’s your new dog. Merry Christmas.” For the moment, I was his hero.
But that wasn’t always the case.

Read More
Nov 24

How My Marriage Destroyed My Shame

By Steve Austin | Best of Messy Grace , faith , Family , Marriage , Messy Grace

Marriage recovery after a spouse’s suicide attempt is not easy, but it is possible. Flashes of light, incoherent chatter. Nothing made sense. I had done everything I could to make sure I never woke up again. So why was I here? Yet, even in such a dark moment, I felt the force of shame in […]

Read More
%d bloggers like this: